Your friend, daughter, or sister may have taken several pregnancy tests and stared at the same results – pregnant. She didn't plan it – it just happened. Filled with fear, regret, sadness, anger and worried about disappointing YOU, she's waited until now to tell you.

You may be feeling angry, disappointed, or upset. However you are feeling as a friend or family member, here's some advice that might help you respond.

How to Help  

 

Make an Appointment

At Pregnancy Support Services, we can confirm the pregnancy and provide vital information and resources. Schedule an appointment online for a free pregnancy test & ultrasound.

  • We offer laboratory-quality urine pregnancy tests with immediate results.
  • A positive test (including a home test) is an indication of pregnancy, but not a confirmation. The test result should be confirmed by an ultrasound exam.
  • The exam will answer 3 important questions that are critical regardless of what options you both are considering:
    1. Is the pregnancy viable – that is, is the pregnancy in the uterus?
    2. Is there a heartbeat?
    3. How far along is she?

 

Stay Calm

No matter how you feel on the inside, it's important for you to remain calm and be a source of support. Your daughter, sister, or friend needs you more now than ever.

 

Slow Down & Listen

One of the biggest things you can do for a friend or relative going through an unexpected pregnancy is allow her to talk to you about her thoughts, feelings, and fears. You don't have to offer advice or judgment - just listen.

 

Get Outside Advice

If you think she could benefit from an outside perspective, our trained advocates are available to meet with you, listen to your concerns and provide answers to your questions.

 

Provide Unconditional Support

Unintended pregnancy may feel like a major roadblock. However, she needs your support and help more than anything. Even if you are feeling down yourself, the biggest thing you can do is support her however you can.

An unintended pregnancy raises lots of difficult questions with no easy answers. Be careful not to say things you might regret later. Respect her, love and listen to her and connect her with resources to help her find answers and provide the support she needs during this time. We offer a safe, caring and confidential place to talk. Pregnancy Support Services experienced staff will listen and answer questions about abortion, adoption or parenting. Please contact us for free and confidential services.